Friday, July 24, 2015

Mother's House and Father's House

East African village

Alice C. Linsley

Among the Nilotic peoples children are valued and raised by the whole community or village. Traditional rites of passage included circumcision, scarification, naak, and the building of small huts. Among some Nilotic peoples, before girls come of marriage age (13-15 years) they build their own huts next to the huts of their mothers. They mimic female adulthood until they marry, at which point they take down their small hut and move into a larger hut built by their husband and located with his kinsmen (called patrilocal residence).

Similarly, young men celebrate their approaching manhood by building a small hut next to their father's hut until they take a wife, at which time they build a larger hut. 

The mother's house is where women gather to plan weddings and ceremonies for the girls. The father's house is where the elders of the village gather to deliberate. Sometimes marriages are arranged here, but the women are the ones who make the actually arrangements for weddings and the setting up of a new household.

This practice of hut or house building is alluded to in the book of Ruth where Naomi tells her daughters-in-law to return to their "mother's house" so that they can prepare to remarry. Contrast this to the story of Judah and Tamar (Gen. 38). Judah's sons who were married to Tamar die one after the other. He refuses to fulfill the levarite marriage law, fearing that he might lose another son. Judah tells Tamar to return to her "father's house" which is to say, "You will remain a widow and childless."


6 comments:

J Eppinga said...

Thanks for this, Alice.

The more I learn about African peoples, the more I regret that Western Civilization isn't more like them, instead of the other way around.

On the other hand, I have noted those instances where the West mimics African wisdom, and it turns out to be manipulative and fascist. The "indaba" business and the musings of the one who will probably be our next US president (back in the 90's) spring to mind.

Alice Linsley said...

The African bishops have been saying for decades that Western ideologues and many Western theologians have reasoned themselves out of the Bible and no longer even recognize the biblical worldview.

African societies certainly are not ideal in every way, but the values of family unity, clan loyalty, reverence for holy things, and respect for mothers and mothering, are values we would do well to adopt. Abortion, for example, is unacceptable in Africa, except where it has been forced on African women by the United Nations, the World Health Organization, and the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation. Since Obama rescinded the Mexico City Policy in 2009, American tax dollars have underwritten thousands of abortions abroad. This was one of his first Presidential actions.

DManA said...

Scarification - Seems by the time of Leviticus they turned against that practice.

Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am Jehovah. Leviticus 19:28

Alice Linsley said...

Yes, and the Horim also denounced shamanic practices associated with scarification.

DManA said...

At some point they threw up an an impenetrable cultural wall between the worlds of the dead and the living. It is fascinating to speculate on what precipitated this divorce.

Alice Linsley said...

Consultation of the spirits of the dead was discovered to bring about demon possession. It was regarded as witchcraft (1 Samuel 28). Saul became possessed.

Shamanic trances opened people to demonic influences. Shamans also discovered that the spirits lie and therefore have to be tested. I John 4:1 - "Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world."

Priests were absolutely forbidden to consult spirits. Only the Holy Spirit never lies. From what I have been able to discover so far, the divorce to which you refer took place long before the time of Abraham.